Hey there! So I’ve been asked a lot “How is it going with two?” and it’s been interesting that a lot of people said the transition from 1 to 2 kids was the hardest for them. So I thought I would share how things are going and some of the gorgeous photos my friend Heather took of our family!
Barrett is doing great! He is a sweet and chubby little man. He is taking semi-regular naps during the day and is waking up to eat about twice a night (between 2-3 and 6ish). So I’m able to get some sleep although, broken up and for his age he seems to be doing really well. We swaddle him for sleep and he can really fight it, but I love him cozied up against me once he’s conked out.
And those cheeks! Completely adorable! His blood sugar issues are not even thought of and he is growing like crazy! At three weeks he weighed 10 pounds 12 ounces and is 23 inches long. He is a GREAT nurser and I feel like that has made a HUGE difference in how “easy” I perceive him to be. (Nursing was still painful and unpleasant with Layla at 3 weeks, although things were beginning to get better.) We supplemented him a little bit with formula as my milk came in/caught up to him, but now he’s only getting a supplement once a day, if that. I never had a great supply with Layla and although I know I could pump and do a crazy rain dance to increase my milk supply, I decided to take the chill approach and just supplement him with formula as needed. Layla was the same way and after a few weeks my body caught up to her, so I tried not to stress over it this time around. And it seems to be working out.
Speaking of stress, I had a lot of anxiety early on postpartum. Crazy dreams, lack of sleep, worries about eating/supply, worries about a million weird things going wrong–just a lot of “stuff”. At my two week appointment I was able to talk through some of it with my midwife and just saying I was feeling anxious was so freeing. We talked about counseling and decided to give it another week and see where I was; thankfully, it has gotten so much better. I feel like a huge part of that was me being honest about how I was feeling with her and those closest to me. Also, call me crazy, but I’ve started drinking Vegan Shakeology and I felt noticeably different (more down, tired, and anxious) if I missed a day of my shake. That’s not on the label, but I think getting in all the good nutrients was huge in helping those hormones balance out for me. I considered not sharing about my struggle, but I feel strongly about mental health and getting help when needed, there is no shame in reaching out–honesty brings joy.
Layla has done well adjusting to being a big sister. She loves Barrett so much! She tries to comfort him when he cries and loves to hold him and help with him in any way she can. She’s been a bit more clingy and whiney, but overall I’m impressed with the way she’s handled this big life change. We try to give her individual time when we can and tag team a lot of care/discipline/play when Nate and I are together. We just yell out “switch!” and swap kiddos. Probably the hardest time is when I’m breastfeeding Barrett and she is either into mischief or needy, but we’ve been able to roll with it pretty well and Daniel Tiger has been a lifesaver! I’m also mastering the art of breastfeeding and reading at the same time.
Nate and I also went out on our first date night on Thursday without the kids. We left them in good hands and needed the time to get away and just be “us”. And yes please to margaritas on Cinco de Mayo! It’s easy (especially us mamas) to be lose focus on our marriage in the trenches of newborn life, I have to remember to over-communicate and make the time for little “us” moments.
Also I am so appreciative of our “village”. We have been so surrounded by love and care as we welcomed Barrett. My mom and sister both spent weekends and days helping us clean, cook, and entertain Layla (literally shout-out to the best mom and sis in the world!). We’ve had friends bring us so much good food, offer support, and babysit our kids. We truly feel blessed by our people and the way they’ve come alongside us to make this transition easier.
So life with two littles is bringing us joy! I think if I had to pick I would say that so far the transition from 1 to 2 has been easier than 0 to 1. I’m more confident as a mom, have more support, and frankly, the easier breastfeeding has been huge! It’s not easy, but we are beyond grateful for both of our sweet blessings!